Settling In: Helping Your Nanny and Child Build a Bond

Even the best nanny cannot bond with your child overnight. The first few weeks set the tone for the whole relationship. Here is how to make them go well.

Plan a soft start in the first week

If you can, be home for at least part of the first day or two. Let your child see you trust this new person - children take their lead from their parents. After a couple of hours, step away to run an errand. Build up to full days gradually.

Share your child's routines and quirks

Write down naps, meals, favourite foods, allergies, comfort objects and any words or signs your child uses for important things. Share what calms them and what sets them off. The more your nanny knows, the faster she can pre-empt meltdowns and recreate the rhythms your child already trusts.

Communicate openly

Ten minutes at the end of each day to swap notes is gold. What went well? What was tricky? What does tomorrow look like? Encourage your nanny to flag small things early so they do not grow into bigger ones.

Common bumps and how to handle them

Tears at handover are normal and usually settle within minutes. A child who suddenly seems clingier with you at home is processing the change - it does not mean the nanny is not working. Give it three or four weeks before judging the relationship.

Signs it is working

Your child mentions the nanny by name unprompted. There is laughter coming from the next room. Your nanny anticipates needs before being asked. You can leave the house without that knot in your stomach. That is the goal.

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